New Years resolutions...... No BS!

[jazz]

You guys must have a different wife than me. After all summer in the field she sure wouldnt like me hiding out in the shop too. Especially with the kids at home in lockdown and going nuts.

I remember my dad doing that. Wintering cows, calving, seeding, haying, harvest and then tinker in the shop on the side and run to town for coffee. He only slept and ate in the house for many yrs. I dont think many modern marriages would stand for that.

[Blaithin]

That sounds ideal to me. I always like men more the less I have to see them.

Plus I’d really just like a shop to do stuff in myself so he’s just have to suck it up and share the space!

[Sheepwheat]

Ha. My wife and I, like partners, fjlip , etc. do the sheep farming together. If I was out there, I’m sure she’d come for visits and to lend a hand, or just be present. We do this life together pretty closely. I agree jazz, that many guys seem to have a bizarre “freedom” though. Many guys I know head to auction sales and so on, and their wives never know where the heck they are. That would be the day in this household! Needs to be some balance for sure.

[AlbertaFarmer5]

You guys must have a different wife than me.

That seems like a safe bet.
Unless of course your wife is practicing polygamy without your knowledge.

Myself personally, I'm almost certain that I am not married to your wife.

[jazz]

That sounds ideal to me. I always like men more the less I have to see them.

Wait until you have a couple rugrats running around. You will be thrilled to pass off some chores especially at 2am.

My dad was from the mad men era. Those guys dont change diapers. He would often leave the house at 5 am and didnt come back until meal time. Could have been dead in a coulee somewhere. Somehow made it to 80.

[LEP]

You guys must have a different wife than me. After all summer in the field she sure wouldnt like me hiding out in the shop too. Especially with the kids at home in lockdown and going nuts.

I remember my dad doing that. Wintering cows, calving, seeding, haying, harvest and then tinker in the shop on the side and run to town for coffee. He only slept and ate in the house for many yrs. I dont think many modern marriages would stand for that.

Fair comment about balance needed. I am gone from spring to fall. I get alittle freedom in July although I often have a project then, It might be at home or on the farm.

Winter time I do work in the shop some but not everyday and always home for breakfast and done before supper. I think that is plenty now that we are empty nesters.

I remember a friend who had retired and was home alot more, telling me his wife told him to get a job. He was driving her nuts.

Part of my point about shop size is, if you have a really large shop, you better use it alot.

[SASKFARMER]

Build it bigger than you need
Think you need if you use them they are always to small.

Now Nykolashian’s is a shop I would be happy with.

[Blaithin]

Wait until you have a couple rugrats running around. You will be thrilled to pass off some chores especially at 2am.

No thanks. I can deal with men around a lot easier than small children. If they arrived via stork somewhere between 6 and 8 and could get their own Cheerios and turn the cartoons on then I’d be fine.

[fjlip]

Great discussion, I spent many winter hours in a 1988 model shop. Till combine got too big, did all the "greenlites" there. Nothing like SF, but maintenance. I enjoyed wood work for 20 years, in the winter, kids were in school, then kids grew up. Now less of that, age changes all, NOTHING is forever. Do what you can, but a heated shop can save marriages too. The words about absence...and hearts. Enjoy while you can. It's an investment.

[AlbertaFarmer5]

Great discussion, I spent many winter hours in a 1988 model shop. Till combine got too big, did all the "greenlites" there. Nothing like SF, but maintenance. I enjoyed wood work for 20 years, in the winter, kids were in school, then kids grew up. Now less of that, age changes all, NOTHING is forever. Do what you can, but a heated shop can save marriages too. The words about absence...and hearts. Enjoy while you can. It's an investment.

I know a lot of welders, rig workers, siesmographers, pipeliners etc, whose careers keep them away from home for long periods of time.
Then something changes ( like a lock down or industry crash, or career change), and they start spending time with their families. Wifes say they are in the way, cramping their usual routine, it is hard on marriages.

There is a joke to the effect of this:

The internet failed, the power was off, too dark to read, too cold to go outside etc, so I had nothing else to do but to talk to my wife, She seems like a nice lady.

[AlbertaFarmer5]

No thanks. I can deal with men around a lot easier than small children. If they arrived via stork somewhere between 6 and 8 and could get their own Cheerios and turn the cartoons on then I’d be fine.

Funny, most guys would agree with that. Perhaps a business opportunity beckons?

[Partners]

Well everyone's situation is different.
Surprising what happens when a man does the dishes..washes the clothes..vacuum the house..cooks dinner.
Then the wife is super happy too drive the combine..haul grain..haul water to the sprayer.do the books.etc..
For us never built a heated shop cuz winter is a form of stress relief..every possible day on the skidoos..and yes..100% of the time together. After 42 yrs we are still newly weds. Can't imagine it any other way..