Merry Christmas

[jazz]

Thats rough furrow, sorry to hear it. Between covid, the crop losses and losing both parents in a short span has to be a huge strain on a guy. Condolences.

[beaverdam]

There has been a thousand questions I wanted to ask my Dad in the last ten months , and that familiar voice , either on the phone or at my kitchen table isn't there. Its been hard to accept ,

Take care and think about the good things if you can.

Ya, that struck a cord. "a thousand questions" there'll be a thousand more questions to come. I thought I asked lots of questions while they were living,,, you know about the family, or how things were for them and their parents starting out in in the early days of the province. History of the area, what these bygone villages were like or even smaller communities, horses they worked, first power equipment etc, etc. But you just can't ask everything at one time, and lots of questions you think to ask later. My dad did write a small memoir for the family, it has about 20 stories in it, but doesn't come close to covering 90 years of life experiences. Every year lately, there are 2-3 old yardsites completely erased and farmed over, many would drive by now and never know anything ever existed there before. I find it sad, while at the same time I will admit to clearing plenty of land myself.(not yardsites though) The history lost would fill airport hangers.
Now I'm busy trying to pass along my parents stories and more of my own to my children and grand children.

Merry Christmas to all, those that need moisture best wishes for the New Year. Plenty of time for spring rains yet.

[furrowtickler]

Thanks for the kind words and stories shared , much appreciated to all .

[FarmJunkie]

Sorry for your loss Furrow. Just remember all the good times and stories he used to tell. Been through it and it takes time to adjust but farm folk are resilient!

[parsley]

Your love for your parents is touching, Furrow. Your respect. Your sense of what they have done. Stability. Patience. When your parents were young and likely invested every penny in the farm, it would be no surprise if they found the best way to live ‘doing without’, was the best way to live ‘doing with’. Careful and measured build family farms.

Generations building a family farm for 110 years is not only an agricultural heritage for your family, but for your town, your province, your country. It’s big stuff.

Your parents taught values. A work ethic. Generational building. Teamwork. Comfortable direct familial-relationships for juggling the generation of ‘teach and listen’, with the other generation of ‘listen and teach’ becomes seamless. Experience and skills are shared. Switching roles common. Looking back must bring you comfort.

May you find another touch of comfort in the spring when the crocus blooms, and you can smile in surprise. Life on the farm knows how to renew because memory assures they will.

My condolences and kindness to you and all your family. Pars.

[Sheepwheat]

Lost my dad 32 years ago.

The pain gets less but never goes away.

You have support on this forum. Encouraged to see that 39 of us, (surely to grow), of all creeds and political flavours, showing support.

My thoughts are with you and your family also.

[furrowtickler]

Your love for your parents is touching, Furrow. Your respect. Your sense of what they have done. Stability. Patience. When your parents were young and likely invested every penny in the farm, it would be no surprise if they found the best way to live ‘doing without’, was the best way to live ‘doing with’. Careful and measured build family farms.

Generations building a family farm for 110 years is not only an agricultural heritage for your family, but for your town, your province, your country. It’s big stuff.

Your parents taught values. A work ethic. Generational building. Teamwork. Comfortable direct familial-relationships for juggling the generation of ‘teach and listen’, with the other generation of ‘listen and teach’ becomes seamless. Experience and skills are shared. Switching roles common. Looking back must bring you comfort.

May you find another touch of comfort in the spring when the crocus blooms, and you can smile in surprise. Life on the farm knows how to renew because memory assures they will.

My condolences and kindness to you and all your family. Pars.

Thank you Parsley, that means a lot , truly.
To all , take care 2020 and 2021 have not been kind to many of us . Be blessed with what you have and all the best to everyone

[furrowtickler]

Just need to say , had a very good long chat with Farmaholic today . Was very good to talk and catch up . His dad passed this past summer , was comforting to share stories and just be human not debating covid or climate or the other continuous b/s going on .
Thanks farma and others that called
Just stay real and take life as you see it , not as it’s being told to us .
Dad always plowed his own path , one thing that sticks with me and I try to push on my kids and now my nephew , don’t worry about the opinion of the herd .
My grandfather , Dad and Mom , installed in us , and many of you here know , if you do something, , do it right , honest and don’t expect anything for free . Work hard for what you want , it won’t be given or easy .

If your still farming today at any spectrum , you know and respect those before us
Take care all ., I am sure there are many of you with very similar situations as proven by the replies, so keep simply doing you regardless of what you do or farm size . The world around us has gone goofy to say the least.
I am very humbled by the replies , thank you all.

[Landdownunder]

Condolences again furrow but we’ve reached out privately. Sadly facing same inevitable scenario making most of tomorrow’s Xmas in case it’s my moms last. Got 75% of family coming darn flu thing. Interstate an overseas travel a PITA.

[Hamloc]

Christmas is certainly when families enjoy getting together. Furrow my condolences on your loss. My Dad passed away 8 years ago. He loved to build things in the shop and when my son and I are fixing in the shop I think of him many times. Lean on those you love and look to the future using what you have learned from the past. Merry Christmas.

[blackpowder]

The things my parents did not teach me are many but the things they did are more. Still loved after all this time gone.
After more than one Christmas alone my take is it's a time to focus on what we have not what we want.
Bless us everyone.

[AC man]

My condolences to you Furrow and everyone else with loss of family members recently. The loss of a parent is really the most painful that I experienced. Dad passed away 35 years ago at the age of 66 and mom 20 years later at 82. Time heals the pain but it doesn’t completely go away. Just think of the good times you had with them which definitely helps. I remember the camping trips,birthdays,and all the holidays that we spent together.I enjoyed farming with dad and the things that he taught me especially his mechanical skills. Parents have a wealth of knowledge that they pass on to their kids. The first Christmas with the loss of a loved ones is always painful but try and think of previous Christmas memories with them. Many on Agriville are having you in our thoughts and prayers this Christmas.

[BTO780]

Time is so precious, and there never seems to be enough of it. We are all so busy and consumed with so much. We need to take time with our families, we never know when it could be gone. Not to sound like a downer, but we all think of these things when something happens. I lost my dad coming 11yrs in Mar, and still everyday I’m reminded of him. Miss him dearly and always will.
I’m trying to live each day like it’s my last. Be thankful for everything all the time .. just not thanksgiving.

Condolences to you Furrow and your entire family.

Merry Christmas to all!!

[Braveheart]

I'm so sorry for your loss Furrow.

I have a sense of the kind of man your father was from the passion for the land and farming that you exhibit in your posts.

My thoughts are with you.

[furrowtickler]

That is a tough time, sympathies furrow, but I understand, lost Mom Nov 21, she made 90. Now Dad at 99 is very needy, grieving, after 70 years married, needs our encouragement just to go on living alone at all. Many couples near us in the past survivor gave up and died not long after first. Was that you case?

Thanks fj, yes , much the same , hard to watch that will disappear. But he passed on his own terms . Grandparents were 3 months apart as well .
Sorry to hear about your mom as well . For both to live into their 90’s is rare and special to be together for that 70 years . That’s a testament in its own nowadays. 👍
We all go through this at some point in life. As shown by above posts .
Merry Christmas to all Agriville, stay warm and make memories with family .