Going to a funeral.

[blackpowder]

Going to a funeral today. And I'm going to enjoy it.
Not because the guest of honor died.
I respect his life a great deal.
But because I will get a chance to see people I haven't seen in years. No limits. All together.

[Landdownunder]

Apologies not derailing this but saw title.

Nasty situation I’m wading through.

My beloved sister passed.

Tis Tuesday morn here.

Sister passed last Monday alone in a small town we’re she lives her partner passed about 13 months ago.

She was found following Saturday. 6 days.

We speak weekly all I thought it was a bit odd she didn’t pick up but thought nothing of it.

We had 2 days over 36 and 1 over 40c.

You get the picture. I rushed up there Saturday once I got contacted by neighbour.

The stench was unbelievable police would not let me go past front gate.

All they said half drunk cup of coffee on table a half smoked cigarette collapsed on kitchen floor. So went quickly.

Had to get a company called “trauma clean” which specialises in crime scene cleaning.

Area cleaned, then house sealed and all the air in house is sucked out and replaced with desanitized air.

Should be able to enter house in 36 hours. About a hour 15 minutes away.

For what ever reason a coronial autopsy has to to be done due to length of time she was passed for no idea why.

Anyway got a call from coroner on Sunday that such is the state of decomposition they need dental records to identify the body before they can’t start autopsy.

Got a tad antsy with them we know who it is etc etc just do it but protocol I guess.

Couldn’t get into house to find any records of dental appointments bills etc of course.

Needle in a haystack ring 11 dental clinics until one asked me did her dental work get done privately or publicly said don’t know but I knew she had to wait just over a year to get in and was done in the city.

They said has to be public when I also said she didn’t have private health cover. They can be one of three clinics. Rang first one bingo.

But rang this one and explained situation. They would not give information. Then I got hot headed I said I don’t need the records the coroner does all I need is a yes or a no did she attend this clinic. Then I sad well eff you I will get police to ring and find out on my behalf. Coroner said if they are not forthcoming with info police can get it but they don’t want to ring clinic after clinic like I did. This threat they then had a look she was on data base yes.

So proceeding.

Death notice will be put in tommorows newspaper touch would lawyers who hold her will should be in contact same day. Lawyer trawl newspaper death columns each day.

Finally closure funeral hopefully in another 10 12 days.

Off to funeral home after I meet with trauma clean at her property 3 hours time.

Explaining to my 92 yr old mom was kinda hard but she fully comprehended did it face to face on Saturday.
Rang her the next morning to double check that she remembered computed.

Her first comment was guess you’ve got lots of organising to start doing today and Monday so that’s good.

Will Wade through it.

Seems like it will be a way larger funeral than thought a childhood friend of my sister rang from interstate and said give me as much notice as you can and hold off as long as possible she wants to attend.

So yeah that’s my lot this week.

Funeral home suggested no viewing but we will do our best they said.

Sister had a wicked articulate sense of humour that often went over the top of people.

She didn’t drive so Xmas morning I drove up there picked her up she had Xmas with us and her nieces and nephews and mom. Stayed overnight. Then stayed with mom next day and overnight then I drove her back.

Give her same Xmas present each year. Got to big smoke to a fancy cheese shop and buy her to rounds of blue cheese about 70 bucks per round guess about 500 grams each one.

She rang the day after she got home and said that cheese was bloody beautiful and she said lucky you didn’t buy me three as I scoffed it all in one sitting probably have a bloody heart attack from cholesterol……

Cheers guys thank for letting me vent.

[furrowtickler]

Condolences to both of you
Just try to remember the good memories, but ya helped us get through the past 3-4 months .

[Landdownunder]

Sometimes it’s good to talk to people ya know but don’t know if ya get my drift.

But some of us bullshit to each other daily eh.

One of my lads came home from interstate on bereavement leave for two weeks so he’s here and coming with me on road trip today bit of company

[shtferbrains]

Sorry to hear about your loss of your sister.
Alway tough to loose a close family member and sometimes can be very traumatic.
Unfortunately your situation makes it traumatic I expect will be difficult to today and for some time in the future.
All we can hope for is we can pass in a simmilar situation as your sister just sitting in our own happy place relaxing.
But ideally someone is available to look after us that cared for us.
She is lucky to have you to take on that task.

[Sheepwheat]

Speechless, mallee. Just speechless. Take care….

[woodland]

Bummer Mallee…….

I feel for ya.

Take care🍀

[burnt]

Just so sorry to hear of your sister's passing and in such a manner.

My condolences to you and your mother. Our frail humanity becomes so evident at times like this.

[agstar77]

Condolences for your loss . Death of a relative bad enough without the extra issues.

[LEP]

Sorry for your loss. It is tough to lose family. Glad you had a visit at Christmas. It will be tough for your mom.

[fjlip]

Oh my that's a horrible time for you. Prayers for those left. Be a hard road to forget on.

[jamesb]

Condolences for your loss

[TOM4CWB]

Just so sorry to hear of your sister's passing and in such a manner.

My condolences to you and your mother. Our frail humanity becomes so evident at times like this.

Dear Maiiee,

Our prayers and thoughts go out to you, and your family...

May Peace and fellowship bring understanding, wisdom and destiny...

Our lives are like a vapour, a light shining in the universe unbending...

Gods Love, his sacrifice, a promise of eternity unending

As you loved even the least of these, you loved me.

[blackpowder]

Mallee.
Official hoops are frustrating then add emotion. Sympathies.
Mine was just a first cousin of my Dad's. 86. Parkinson's for many years. But a short story if I may to cheer things up.
His Dad had died while he was quite young. Took over farm to support his Mom and never left till 65.
He worked for me a bit after that.
One day he showed me a newspaper clipping of his bride on her high school graduation day. Carried it in his wallet all those years. A real testimony to who he was. Something I'll never forget as I'm a big softie.

[Hamloc]

Sometimes it’s good to talk to people ya know but don’t know if ya get my drift.

But some of us bullshit to each other daily eh.

One of my lads came home from interstate on bereavement leave for two weeks so he’s here and coming with me on road trip today bit of company

As Sheepwheat said, “speechless”, my condolences. The loss of a family member in never easy, this situation would make it much more difficult.