Suicide In The Farm Community

[highwayman]

The vale has been lifted and we can see clearly now. Sadly, some times we fail to see what is right in front of us until it's to late. I often misunderstood cotton and what he was trying to say mainly because of the way he presented it. I've never found profanity or arrogance a desiresble trait in those that were trying to share their knowledge. Though my own family members battle with chronic depression and attempts to take his own life,I understand now what was a shrouded cry for help and deeply regret that it wasnt recognized for what it was. My deepest sympathies to his family, live life,stay strong and may Our Friend rest in peace. God bless.

[LWeber]

From: Weber
Sent: November 3, 2016 8:09 PM
To: 'cranefarm@
Cc: Carol Husband; John Kotylak
Subject: My deepest condolences:

Dear Michelle:

Although we have never met, nor had Chad and I, words cannot express the loss I feel for you and your family.

We started a fund raising page for you and the kids this afternoon. As of 8:00 PM this evening there is $3,070.00 in it and it will remain open for 30 days.
We set a goal of $10,000.00
While it is not the most cost effective manner of generating funds, it is the quickest and most efficient.

The link is listed below:

https://fundrazr.com/f1BBb7

When you are ready, please email me and I will walk you through registering so you can transfer the money to your account.
I will give you the password on the phone just to make sure it is secure.

Keep your head up as well as possible for the kids and know that you have many that are thinking of you.

Sincerely,
Larry Weber

[Ache4Acres]

Suicide is never the answer. The pain that it leaves behind for those that you love and those that loved you lasts decades. It is your family left behind that suffers most.

I am sure that if Cotton would have reached out to anyone here they would of done anything possible to help. It is all too common that nothing is ever said to those around and before you know it, it is too late to help.

I will be praying for Chads beautiful wife and children. They will come through this but it will take much time to heal. Hopefully neighbors nearby have some energy left to help clean up what is left of harvest if any and the family support is strong.

Good night Cotton, Michelle and kids! You have many people across Canada and the even the world thinking of you, supporting you and praying for you.

[parsley]

Thank you for your comments Mark

1. "Not sure if you are aware or not but they take 5 - 7.9% in the crowd funding site." Yes we are. This provides a service. The venue is international. It also allows people to pay online.

2. "Another option is you can also make donations at the Weyburn Credit Union. Crane Children trust fund. "


You will note that Boarderbloke already previously posted the option you listed:
"BOARDERBLOKE 18
NOV 3, 2016 15:53
http://obits.dignitymemorial.com/dig...71&mid=715081

3. Note the differentiation: The fundraising Larry set up provides IMMEDIATE money for the family's immediate needs. Michelle can withdraw in a day or two. The Crane children's trust fund is a trust account.

Just so there is no confusion. Pars

[blackpowder]

I sit and wonder how an anonymous internet poster has touched me at all.
I sit and ponder death yet again albeit in a different way.
I believed when my father died that it was a parents' job to show his children how.
I ruminate on the term 'mental illness' and know that it is a convenient catch all. Meaningless.
I sit in the bar and tell stories about all the 'counsellors' etc I've experienced.
I dont care what others think.
I want one person to see.
I would like for those who come after not to havta relearn it all.
I pray my children find someone as myself all through their life.

[Grahamp]

I am largely a lurker yet feel real loss. I enjoyed Cottons posts and can't believe that I won't get to read them again. Prayers are with his wife and children.

[farmaholic]

The sad part about when someone chooses suicide it almost validates it as an option for those contemplating it. Like in families, close circle of friends, with in communities like we are now seeing on Reserves.

Sad, don't open that door for anyone else...keep it tightly locked!

This post means don't choose suicide so to make other's think it is an option.... that is what I mean about keeping that door tightly locked.... do not open that door and go through it. This has nothing to do with NOT TALKING ABOUT IT AND SHUTTING OTHERS OUT SO YOU HAVE TO SUFFER ALONE AND IN SILENCE. HONEST AN OPEN DIALOG IS WHAT IS NEEDED.

Somehow I feel like I needed to explain myself and defend the comment.

[mbratrud]

Thank you for your comments Mark

1. "Not sure if you are aware or not but they take 5 - 7.9% in the crowd funding site." Yes we are. This provides a service. The venue is international. It also allows people to pay online.

2. "Another option is you can also make donations at the Weyburn Credit Union. Crane Children trust fund. "


You will note that Boarderbloke already previously posted the option you listed:
"BOARDERBLOKE 18
NOV 3, 2016 15:53
http://obits.dignitymemorial.com/dig...71&mid=715081

3. Note the differentiation: The fundraising Larry set up provides IMMEDIATE money for the family's immediate needs. Michelle can withdraw in a day or two. The Crane children's trust fund is a trust account.

Just so there is no confusion. Pars

Like I said Carol, it's a great idea. Great idea because of the availability of immediate funds to help out in a difficult time. 👍

[blackpowder]

Let no one of us keep any door locked.

[biglentil]

Feel so terrible for his young family, please donate everyone! So many questions that will never be answered.

[sumdumguy]

There are many physiological problems that can really destroy the mind. Growths, tumors or fluid changed the gentlest, sweetest older lady into the total opposite. I actually saw two different people who were affected so drastically as to make them suicidal. Their problem was repaired and they reverted back to their old selves. In all fairness to Cotton, there might have been some physiological problem and it wasn't choice at all.

[Ache4Acres]

Might be right dumguy. I believe Cotton had posted that he had been diagnosed with brain cancer.

None the less, an awful loss.

We should all remember to hug those we love, since you just never know in this world what lies around the next corner. Life can change in an instant.